Some of you have taken exception to the ‘Malay Malaysian bring along a non-Malay Malaysian friend, non-Malay Malaysian bring along a Malay Malaysian friend’ requirement to get an invitation to the Saya Anak Bangsa Malaysia forum in Penang on 15th November. If you’ve missed that announcement on this blog, you can read about it HERE.
I’m going to try and explain here the rationale for that stipulation.
The first, and in my view, the most important message that the SABM roadshow carries is that we are all, first and foremost, born as equal citizens of planet Earth, and, in the context of this nation-state called Malaysia, we, anak-anak Bangsa Malaysia, are all equal citizens.
Now, try to recall the standard adverse stance taken whenever the proposition that all citizens of Malaysia are equal is advanced by any quarter in public space.
Is not “Jangan cabar ketuanan Melayu” or “Jangan cabar hak-hak keistimewaan Melayu” the ugly response that we have grown accustomed to hear?
Who by?
UMNO and its legion of racist, bigoted NGOs.
No, not BN. The other BN component parties just hide in the shadows every time UMNO and its racist sloganeers go ballistic at the slightest mention of equality of citizenship.
Now, no prizes for guessing correctly who are the targets of UMNO and their race supremacist sidekicks.
We all know who they are.
Some of those targeted need no persuasion to incline to that race supremacist stance. They are themselves racists and bigots, to begin with, and beyond redemption. Thankfully, my experience on the ground leaves me convinced that these are but a small number, in comparison to the whole. I’ll call these the no-hopers.
And then there are others within the target group who are much too enlightened to fall prey to this racist call. The likes of Zaid Ibrahim, Malik Imtiaz and Dr. Azmi Sharom come to mind, to just name a few. These few speak up and are heard. Others, for a variety of reasons, mostly fear, sadly remain silent.
I am convinced that the majority within the target group are decent people, with the same concerns and aspirations of every other citizen of this nation. Most, though, may not have access to news sources other than the mainstream media, particularly Utusan and BH, which serve as the conduit to take the racist, hate messages of UMNO and their cohorts into the homes, the hearts and the minds of this majority within the target group. Decent as the people within this majority are, we should not be at all surprised if they are adversely impacted by this constant bombardment that rights guaranteed to them are under siege.
Let’s call the majority of the target group “VORS“, which stands for ‘Victims Of Racist Sloganeering”, for ease of reference.
How do we, you and I and every other anak Bangsa Malaysia who cares where this nation is headed, begin to try and undo the damage that UMNO and their hate-mongers inflict on VORS?
Speaking for myself, I truly believe that it is the responsibility of every right-thinking anak Bangsa Malaysia to reach out to every individual in VORS whom he or she knows and make every effort to undo the evil that UMNO and their racist NGOs inflict on race relations in our country.
Enter the SABM roadshow effort.
When the SABM roadshow hits Penang and the other cities and towns in the weeks and months to come, we want to take the message of equality to every single anak Bangsa Malaysia out there.
We want to meet everyone.
Except, perhaps, the no-hopers that I wrote about earlier, whose sole purpose for attending, more often than not, is to disrupt the forum.
Even if you are already sold on the idea that we are all of one race, the human race, and equal citizens of this nation, we still would like to meet you.
There’s much that we want to share with you through the forum.
Besides, my experience has been that many good people, for so long remaining silent in the face of injustice inflicted on others, derive encouragement and strength in meeting other like-minded people at forums like the one SABM is organising and discovering that there are others too who care and that they are not alone.
And yet, my friends and I in the SABM coregroup realise that we must prioritise.
Our resources are scarce, and hence we must optimise every opportunity we get to deliver this message beyond the converted and the like-minded.
The last thing we want is to preach this message of ‘One People, One Nation’ to a hall full of like-minded people.
It is my hope that with the stipulated ‘Malay Malaysian bring along a non-Malay Malaysian friend, non-Malay Malaysian bring along a Malay Malaysian friend’ requirement to get an invitation to the SABM forum, there is every likelihood that the forum will not end up as nothing more than a fellowship of the like-minded.
It also increases the odds on our being able to keep out the disruptive no-hopers that I spoke of and, with a bit of luck, help us unearth some budding ‘Malik Imtiaz’ out there who may now be emboldened to speak up at forthcoming forums.
How, you may well ask.
Let me illustrate the point with an imagined ‘Arumugam’.
Arumugam is your average, decent Penangite. He has no racist streak in him. He registers for the forum, also registering a Malay Malaysian friend, as we have asked. As Arumugam is no racist, it’s safe to assume, if not hope, that his friend, too, is not.
The converse, in theory at least, would also apply. A Malay Malaysian bringing along a non-Malay Malaysian friend gives us reason to hope that neither is an out and out racist, or no-hoper.
This, then, was the rationale for the stipulated requirement to get an invite to the forum.
The SABM coregroup is mindful that, like every other human endeavour, nothing is fool proof.
We can only try.
In stipulating the requirement in question, we had hoped that those of you who already share the aspiration of ‘One People, One Nation’ would help us to deliver our message to those who most need to hear it, by doing your part to get them into the forum hall.













Bigjoe
November 4, 2009
Who are the lazy, self-loathing, idiot that is complaining?
The idea is grand as far as I am concern.. Spread the love man. Very sixties. Those who were not born then or did not experience the period have better learn that the methodology Haris is proposing STOPPED A VIETNAM WAR of the greatest superpower on earth.
What is wrong with young people today? Technology and too much narrow education just makes them too demanding and unimaginative..
Lyon
November 4, 2009
Dear Haris,
Just ignore these fault finders are not interested in the nitty-gritty, they will always find something to pick on to create an issue.
We are with you, just carry on, you have my fullest support.
Shalom
Pak Sako
November 4, 2009
Dear Haris: ‘fool proof’ -> ‘foolproof’/'fool-proof’.
cktan
November 4, 2009
anxiously waiting you guys to be in EM!
SpeakUp
November 5, 2009
Haris … Its a great idea but …
I am in KL, I am non Malay, I got tons of Malay pals to kidnap to your event, now if I would like to attend the one in Penang then I am pretty screwed, I hardly have any Malay friends in Penang. How la?
SpeakUp,
The SABM roadshow hits KL / Selangor in January, 2010.
Kidnap your friends to the event then.
See you in KL
ruyom
November 5, 2009
Then let me re-quote Lee Kuan Yew:
Singaporean politician Lee Kuan Yew of the PAP, who publicly questioned the need for Article 153 in parliament, and called for a “Malaysian Malaysia”.
In a speech, Lee Kuan Yew bemoaned what would later be described as the Malaysia social contract:
“According to history, malays began to migrate to Malaysia in noticeable numbers only about 700 years ago. Of the 39% malays in Malaysia today, about one-third are comparatively new immigrants like the secretary-general of Umno, Dato Syed Jaafar, who came to Malaya from Indonesia just before the war at the age of more than thirty. Therefore it is wrong and illogical for a particular racial group to think that they are more justified to be called Malaysians and that the others can become Malaysians only through their favour.”
Eventually, and Singapore became an independent nation in 1965, with Lee Kuan Yew as its first prime minister.
Keith
November 5, 2009
Why are we following the way UMNO divides Malaysia…Malay and non-Malay.
I personally feel uncomfortable with the non-Malay conundrum. Why do we split between Malay and Non-Malay, doesn’t that sound very much like UMNO?
Why can’t it be “bring another friend of a different race than yours”.
Al Malik
November 12, 2009
Keith, Please do go back to the article for the rationale for the invite !
Richard Loh
November 5, 2009
Malaysians need to play a part in running the country and not just leave the politicians to do whatever they like.
You Need To Get Involved, Know What Is Happening & Going On In Malaysia
ktteokt
November 5, 2009
Who was the idiot who wrote the RUKUNEGARA those days? And who the hell pushed it through parliament and made it official? Did these idiots ever take a look at what they have written? If not, these idiots better do it again, this time scrutinizing every single word contained in it! What did they mean by “membina masyarakat yang adil” when they wrote it in the RUKUNEGARA? Were they ever serious about implementing what they have written? If not, then don’t write for the sake of writing and making idiots like me swear under the hot sun during school assembly those days!!!!!
apolitical
November 6, 2009
ktteokt,
adil dan saksama tu besar dan mendalam maknanya. If you dont understand it you better go back to school…masuk sekolah kebangsaan, tanya cikgu apakah adil tu bermaksud samarata? (equal)
Kalau you faham, tapi simply pretending that you dont understand, via falming dangerous ideas of yours, then you are one of the idiots & racial zealots that this beautiful country had ever produced!…shame on you!!
apolitical
November 6, 2009
sudah lah Saudara Haris…kalau dulu saya menyanjung tulisan saudara, kini, setelah sekian lama mengikuti, dan melayari artikel2 saudara, saya sudah mulai naik menyampah malah mulai mual malah marah kerana kecondongan sdr untuk “membantai” apa saja mesalah dlm negara ini pada UMNO. Saudara tidak berlaku adil dalam menyelinap permasalahan kaum sejujur jujurnya. Sdr tidak pernah mengkritik, atau setidak2nya menegur kekiasuan “kaum bukan bumiputra” dalam kesungguhan pembinaan anak bangsa Malaysia. Segala2 nya saudara benamkan kepada UMNO.
Have you ever ask your concience that these people really want to be a real Malaysian,i.e. leaving behind the trace of chinese-ness, or Indian-ness and be a truly Malaysian loyalist?..or they just intrested to claim “the right”, here and there, hiding behind magical word of equality?….
Haris, do you really support “Sekolah Satu Aliran”?, if yes, pls write something about this..sejujur2nya, ask your “bukan bumiputra” friends, your SABMs to support. For god sake, pls stop blaming UMNO, for everything that went wrong in this country.
jadilah anak bangsa malaysia yg jujur, sejujujurnya.
Al Malik
November 12, 2009
Sdr apolitical, the SABM forum is to address issues pertaining to what prohibit the concept of togetherness in the Malaysian society. You point out the the kiasu attitude, sekolah satu aliran that some do not support etc. You should spell out what is a Malaysian loyalist, whether the concept “Melayu Baru” appeals to the “Melayu Lama’ to adopt the “kekiasuan” attitude(of kaum bukan bumiputra, you say). You may wish to point out what is “Sekolah satu aliran” and how to make it appealing to those that (you presume) do not support the concept. If you are around when the forum is held in your area, you should attend and lend support to bring about the Malaysian “togetherness”.
ak57
November 6, 2009
I was upset too when I first read about this requirement. I have many friends for whom I am their only ‘non’ friend (that is, I am from a different race). We have mutual groups of friends from different walks of life where everyone is one colour except me. Among all the races, I often see friends exclusively hanging out with friends of the same colour. If they were to attend your forum, they would have to find some token friend (or co-worker) and drag them along. I know some of my friends wouldn’t mind going. But their friendship circle prevents them from meeting the requirement. Some of them even work in a one-colour environment!
I believe it is naive to believe that all Indians and Chinese have friends who are Malay and vice versa. But that’s OK. The fact is, if you only spend time with friends of one race, chances are you wouldn’t be bothered about an SABM forum. So with this racial requirement, only open minded people are able to attend because they actually DO have friends of a different colour.
Do video the event and upload it please, at least those who feel they don’t meet the requirement can see the crowd and hear the talk.
Phua Kai Lit
November 6, 2009
Hello apolitical
Please go to Dr Rafick’s blog for some thoughtful,
high quality discussions of the points you raised.
Nat fan
November 6, 2009
Haris, please be Be constructive when we rip into our leaders:
Indeed, as RPK suggests, it was the people who enabled the political tsunami, and not the charisma of any one man or candidate; but there would have been no tsunami to speak of if not for those who did step up, and for those who led them.
SpeakUp
November 8, 2009
Haris … lousy reply! I must wait till Jan 2010? Aarrrggghhhhh …
anna brella
November 9, 2009
To those anywhere who still wish to defend UMNO’s past performance on governance, would it help to consider the fact that these are the Malaysians who were democratically elected and charged with delegated power from collective MALAYSIAN PEOPLE to apply sole focus on GOVERNING/MANAGING the affairs, economy and resources of the nation (i.e. to perform micro/macro management tasks) and to chart and DIRECT its course to build up its resilience to grow, to compete, to thrive and survive (strategic tasks) and most importantly, to perform those strategic and tactical management tasks in the good, optimum COLLECTIVE interest of all the PEOPLE of MALAYSIA?
Ever heard of these leadership/management phrases:
1. There are no bad teams, only bad leaders and managers?
2. Bad carpenters usually blame their tools?
3. Passing the buck conveniently and failing to take responsibility for your own mistakes, short-sightedness and incompetence is not good leadership or good management?
“Imagine Power To The People” John Lennon.
Shakuntala
November 9, 2009
Haris, it is off putting when persons,out of fear perhaps, tend to critisize and analize a new idea.
Actually speaking your idea of a non-malay malaysian bringing a malay-malaysian friend to the forum and vice versa, appears difficult, maybe because it has not been tried.
Perhaps Malaysians have been content, for too long, to just live their lives in their own circles, so they think that what you are proposing is too far-reaching and unworkable.
I also agree it is difficult. But then the test of the idea is to put it to work. It certainly would not be easy to try to change mind-sets. The message of your post to reach beyond the converted and the like-minded, is already telling one that it is going to be a task.
Still it is good to give it a try, otherwise we shall not know. Who knows,surprises do happen!!
Because Malaysians are getting more and more broad-minded, these days.
Did not a group of enterprising malay-malaysians bravely sit in at the ceremony, in a Hindu temple,just recently, soon after the cow-head incident? That was a marvellous effort of Malaysians wanting to heal wrongs, wanting to form a community of persons who refused to allow their conditioning, to come in the way of togetherness.
It is time to seek each other out, without allowing others to do it for us.
It is time to not allow our leaders, to keep us bound in chains.
At the end of the day, we are One People One Nation.
soohuey
November 11, 2009
Hi Haris,
I’d like to share my thoughts and I hope you receive them well.
I’m 27 years old, and would attend the workshop if it didn’t clash with a conference I’m attending in KL. However, I’m 100% sure that my 17yo brother, 23yo sister and majority of my friends (everyday Malaysians just trying to make a life for themselves in the surroundings they grew up in) would be put off by your flier and program, and the only way I’d be able to make any of them go is to call upon a favor or make it so they “give me face” and go.
This workshop and the program does not sound cool. I believe the average 17 – 25 year old will think this workshop sounds down right boring and only something losers will attend. Only a select group will attend and for select reasons. Those who will attend are likely people who are already thinking about the issue or have friends who are thinking about the issue. However, those we really need to reach out to are those who are oblivious and don’t think about ‘Bangsa Malaysia’ or assume that segregation and discrimination are just how things are.
As you’ve eloquently explained, we need to reach beyond the converted and like-minded, but I’m uncertain your method and publicity are effective towards your aim.
If you want to reach out to youths, we need to make ‘Bangsa Malaysia’ and caring about the nation *cool*.
soohuey,
Your thoughts here have been well-received.
Will bring your points to the attention of my friends in the SABM core group and we will give it the consideration it deserves.
Thank you
soohuey
November 11, 2009
Another thought to share…
On many occasions during discussions at forums organised by various activists, I get a strong feeling that the perspectives of people who went to local universities differs from those who went abroad or went to local colleges (eg. TAR in Penang). Many times I feel the perspectives and sentiments of those who went to local universities (by virtue of their environmental and inter-personal experiences at university) and those who have never attended local university are worlds apart.
Unfortunately, I feel majority of activists / politicians seem to come from our local universities and sometimes I’m unsure they are in touch with everyone else. Many times I hear comments made with merely the situation/perspective of one who have been to local university… or perhaps someone in their 40′s, 50′s who grew up in a different environment.
The above concern has been applicable in different scenarios, but I’m sharing it here to help justify why people have spoken up against the “bring a friend” stipulation and why it is unfair to call them “lazy, self-loathing, idiots”.
Let me share my story.
I went to a relatively small Sekolah Menengah Kebangsaan. I’ve a reputation even until now for being friends with everyone. I make an effort with people from different classes (as we are segregated academically), races and financial/family background. Throughout secondary school, a group of us used to make a point to visit our Malay friends during Raya.
After Form 5, all my Malay friends went to MARA college and almost all my Chinese/Indian friends went to Kolej TAR or a private college. The colleges are majority Chinese with some intermingling with Indians.. I think 0% Malays. I kept in touch with two Malay friends – one who lived near me and another I communicated by post (snail mail!).
I went overseas for my undergrad degree and soon writing letters to my friend in Mara was something that totally left my mind. C’mon, I didn’t even write home to my parents! Nonetheless, whenever I’m back in Penang on holidays, I would make an effort to call up all my Malay friends because I know my other Chinese friends are more slack in keeping in touch so if I didn’t we’ll eventually all lose touch. People tend to stick to their “clicks” and I’ve a reputation as being the (only) link to the different circles.
My friends are good people and they are not racist. But they tell of even how in colleges the stereotype is for people of a particular race to stick together. For those who have tried, they’ve found that at college and when they started working, people from other races tend to prefer their own and are not receptive to friendly gestures and attempts at being friends. I’ve friends who have lamented because they used to have friends from other races in school, but when you work you get segregated by the job you do and somehow the tertiary education experience actually makes people segregate themselves even further.
For me, my close Malay friends from school are now in KL, Johor and Terengganu. There is one Malay friend who is in Penang, but she has a kid and we’re not in touch that often, so it feels somewhat hypocritical as a friend to inconvenience her by making her attend a workshop that she is totally uninterested in. I don’t work in Malaysia, so I don’t have Malay workmates.
For my friends who do work in Malaysia, my understanding is that there is greater majority of Malays in certain jobs and Chinese in certain jobs, and a Chinese can truly work in an environment where they don’t see a Malay the whole day and have no Malay colleagues whatsoever.
While we were at college, none of us would have a Malay college mate either because all Malays in college would be in Mara and not a private/TAR college.
So can you understand how difficult it is for a totally non-racist person who even goes to the extreme and out of her way to maintain friendship with Malays to adhere to the “bring a friend” stipulation?
To those who still think I’m lazy or not being optimistic/supportive enough for your attempt to include more Malays and different races, I hope you will also pause to consider our side of the story.
Anyhoo, I can’t make it on the day anyway, so I don’t know if I could get a Malay to go with me even if I tried — “Hey, you’re Malay. I’m not. I need you to be in cahoots with me for this thing because otherwise I won’t get in. No, I can’t bring Pushna. She’s Indian, I’m Chinese and I need a Malay. Yes, we’re trying to give the message that Bangsa Malaysia means that everyone is the same. No, Pushna and Su Fen can’t go with me. They’re not Malay! Not the same! I need a Malay to get in! Yes, they’re making a big deal that you’re Malay.. but aren’t you used to that yet?”
soohuey,
As with your earlier comment, I am grateful for this.
Will take this to the core group for their consideration.
soohuey
November 12, 2009
Haris, Thank you for your replies and conveying my thoughts to the SABM core group. I wish you the best with SABM and all your other endeavours.
SH
soohuey,
No, thank you for taking time out to share your thoughts
Sharon
November 11, 2009
Soohuey:
Touche. Very eloquent and always the voice of logic. Met you at the transport forum in Pulau Tikus a month ago.
soohuey
November 12, 2009
Sharon,
Thank you for your kind comment. Please do say Hi if you ever see me again in person. I’m afraid I can’t recall your face from the transport forum.
I’m guessing you’ve seen my write-up in Anil Netto’s blog? If not, it may be of interest – http://anilnetto.com/development-issues/a-peek-at-the-pulau-tikus-town-hall-meeting . I think they’re getting serious with the initiative this week. Will be interesting to see how things work out.
joehancl
November 13, 2009
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you Harris, for bringing malaysians together. I sincerely wish I could do something. Suffice to say I am with you in spirit.
Iskandar
December 13, 2009
What is Ketuanan Melayu? I invite all of you, whether you are the proponent or the opponent of the concept Ketuanan Melayu to express your thoughts here-
http://riskandar.blogspot.com/2009/12/what-is-ketuanan-melayu.html